(See the introduction in the Previous Post)
An Excerpt from my upcoming book,
Married, Successful & Embracing Life: A Godly Woman’s place in a changing world.
The issue of a woman’s creation. Have you ever thought about the fact that the bible has no recorded information of a discussion between God and the woman from the moment she was created to the moment she was presented to the man as his wife? Even when Adam said ‘this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman’, she still did not make a speech. It is highly improbable that she was made mute. It is rather most likely that God did have a conversation with her prior to taking her to the man. If this happened it must not have been recorded for our benefit, for a good reason.
There is something about the silence surrounding the making and unveiling of the woman that speaks louder than words. Adam had to be put to sleep during the process of her making. The very structure of her make up was developed in silence, in secret, prior to her unveiling to the man.
A God prepared kind of woman is a very spiritual, intuitive, silently moulded, knowingly wise creature. Most of a woman’s communications are internal, feelings oriented and spiritual. Until a woman organises her internal processes, until she gets that right and unconfused, when she starts to speak, it is almost always a nigh disaster. She will use speech as an organising process instead of a communicative one. To repeat, I do not for one second believe that God did not communicate or speak to the woman after he made her. I do not believe she was made mute. I believe she must have been told about herself, her purpose and her mission in the quiet place of the spirit. She had an organised, upright internal system which was not confused otherwise, there will have been no way she would have remained quiet even after Adam spoke. She would have had some questions or at least some responses. Most women with unresolved questions and feelings will find it next to impossible to make no responses to a ‘deep’ declaration like the one Adam made.
The manifestation of the woman’s purpose was linked to the man whose wife God made her to be. It is in and through that relationship therefore that the initiation and outdooring of all of that she is will begin. It is in speaking however, that Adam begins the process of Eve’s manifestation. He introduces her. It is in speaking also that Adam takes responsibility for not only identifying the awesomeness and full hidden potential of the woman God had given him but also takes responsibility for every mistake she will ever make. Eve had no need to speak. It is in her silence that she gives her assent to his leadership. I can sense some feminine protestations now. Don’t think for a minute that this was wholly a limitation on Eve, it was in fact an insurance for her protection.
Speech requires responsibility. Words are spirit and life. What we say we must take responsibility for. God spoke the world into being. The responsibility of the performance of his word was with him. In fact, God said in his word, ‘the words that I speak will not return to me void’. In other words, words are unseen servants, they are sent to accomplish tasks, for which the one sending them is ultimately responsible. Remember Adam’s prior mandate…‘whatever he called it so became its name’. He had to name all the animals and created things. By so doing he took responsibility for their maintenance and upkeep.
Eve in a sense was no stranger to Adam. The molecular structure for her being was taken out from him presupposing that she was part of him at the time that God made him and sealed his instruction and his blessing. In fact the bible tells us that ‘Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created’. (Genesis 5:2 KJV).
The responsibility for a woman is not like any other. Someone will ask, why should someone even have responsibility for the woman? Isn’t she capable of taking responsibility for herself? God is not the author of confusion. Responsibility is a function of assignment or task. Where there is a task to be accomplished, someone must be held ultimately accountable. Everything God made has a purpose, a task attached to it. Apart from the responsibility of each to operate according to their design, there must be someone each is subject to and accountable to in relation to the task. There must be one clear servant leader. This is why every single creature on earth became a partaker in ‘one man’s sin’. It is also why salvation has been set through one man, Jesus Christ. Ultimate responsibility in any relationship, group or organisation should be traceable to one person. In a marriage relationship God chose the man as this person simply because he was made first.
A woman’s quiet spirit is the medium through which she receives Godly revelation, wisdom and strength from God. God cannot speak to a chaotic woman. It is against his very design of her. A quiet spirit does not mean a quiet, mousy temperament. It simply means a woman in control of her inner self and having the ability to yield that inner self to God and to her husband so as to be impacted by them.
‘Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands’.(1 Peter 3:1-5 KJV)
A woman is not property, nor is she similar to other animate or inanimate things that can be considered as property to be set aside at will. She is an independent, thinking, speaking, feeling, human made to be linked to man (to be his suited, tailored helper) for whom man had to take responsibility and be accountable to God for. Man had to be awakened from a deep sleep, to name her. He had to identify her, accept her, proclaim her substance and purpose in her hearing all in one speech. ‘
And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man’. (Genesis 2:23 KJV).
Silence and deep spiritual work is not only limited to women. To qualify to speak to the woman and in the presence of God, Adam had to be put into silence, into a deep sleep, into the same dimension within which the woman was made. He then had to be awakened to recognise her, to enable him speak out her right identity. Remember, he was asleep, he couldn’t have known what was taken out of him except by a spiritual revelation. We have many men today, who are reluctant to spend time in silent contemplation, in learning, prayer and humility to do the work on themselves needed in order to lead and be responsible for a woman. They are unaware at a deep level of what their wives are made of and cannot buy into the spirit to call forth her identity. They name her according to their need not according to the substance she is made of nor can they call her up to that substance if she falls short. They name her, housewife, mother of my children, lover, cook, helper, these are all good but they only speak to her function, not her substance and so we have many hardworking women who are depleted and weary because their core identity has never been identified. They have no rest, no security. They have no way of resourcing what they are sourcing out everyday because the lid is still firmly shut in the leader, the one responsible for them.
Worse, there are Adams that name their wives within the same dimensions with which they name the animals (or their properties) hence they treat their wives as such, like donkeys, horses, lionesses roaring in their houses who they have to tame at all cost. But if all men can see their wives as physical and spiritual extensions of themselves, made from the same material by the same maker, they will have a good starting point by calling them ‘bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh‘. In other words they will be saying, your bone- your main frame, is part of mine. In fact, it is the main that hold my frame together. You are the main bone of my bones. Your body, your flesh is part of mine. I cover you. You are insured. You are safe. I protect you because without you, I am disabled and weak. So then the two truly become one which is God’s true intention.
A married woman therefore who has been called into her own by her husband cannot be exempted from expressing herself because there is no confusion about her identity. She is submitted to the authority of her husband and he takes responsibility for her. Once he has full confidence in her and she has learnt and recognised her place, she must be free to be all that God made her to be.